To be honest, I never took this blog seriously until I knew what I wanted it to do… until I made the 3 biggest changes in my life.
Now, I realize I’ll use this site and blog as a home for my journey, my learnings, tips, tricks and thoughts.
A lot as changed for me recently and I have big things planned for 2014 but I won’t accomplish any of it unless I show up in this world a certain way. Every. Single. Day.
The 3 words exercise is a great one for those that don’t enjoy New Years Resolutions, since we fail at those most of the time anyway.
This exercise was started by Chris Brogan and he explains it here and I took a stab at mine in 2012 but I never ended up defining 3 words for 2013.
Well, I did…but I only had two. They waited there on my bamboo dry erase board waiting for the third and final word.
Up until recently I never actually even took those 3 words seriously.
After going through an intenviste Leadership Training program in LA that lasted a total of 2 weeks (separated by 3) I have a new outlook on life and I’ve found 3 words that will not only be my guiding principles through 2014 but for the rest of my life.
My 3 words explain the way that I’ve been showing up in this world recently to friends, family and most importantly myself.
There is a saying that I can’t stop thinking of these days…
If it’s to be, it’s up to me.
Even though I’ve chosen to show up and come from a place guided by my 3 words, each of these words is how I’d like you (and all society) to show up in the world.
Not only because it will be awesome and rewarding for me but because I know the impact it will have on so many others in your life – Loved ones, friends, family, co-workers, pets lovers, and complete strangers.
I get to be the change that I want to see in the world.
I want to live in a world where we can all give unconditional love, inspire others, honor our word, and be more vulnerable than we’ve ever been before.
Like I already mentioned, I know that if I want to see this change it’s up to me to:
I’ve found that many times in my own life I’ve done everything it takes to get to where I want and then I don’t follow through on the last, often most important step.
Lack of follow through means lack of committment.
I now take committment as seriously as I should have been taking it my whole life. If I don’t follow through on the things I’ve committed to why would anyone else take me seriously or trust in me?
More importantly, how am I supposed to take myself seriously and trust myself?
Committment shows up in many ways for me.
I’m committed to:
- My relationship with Sarah (my fiance): Being there when I say i’ll be, being on time and giving her 110% of my love.
- Koda, my lovely Boxer: Walking her every day, getting her exercise, giving her treats and loving on her as much as possible.
- My family: Spending as much time with them in person, calling/texting/skyping with them to stay in touch and be a part of their lives since they live on the east coast.
- My friends: Inspiring them to aachieve their dreams, supporting them when they want it, making them laugh and feel loved.
- My clients & customers: To give them the best work possible, tell them what they need to hear even if it hurts, to be their partner, their friend and someone they can rely on be honest about growing their business.
- My own word: I can’t even count how many times I’ve said I’d be there on time and I was late and brushed it off. That’s rude and disrespectful and gives off the impression I don’t care about anyone else. Commitment to my word is one of the most important things I’m focused on moving forward.
- My schedule: Saying no is a huge trick here. I usually over commit which means I end up dropping the ball on something or someone. I commit to managing my schedule only in a way that leads to success.
- My craft: I love mobile marketing and I believe I am the best educator on the topic and offer the most transparent and honest view possible. I commit to always being a student…even when teaching.
Commitment to my own word creates so many opportunities and power in my life and it can in yours too…as long as you’re honest.
Honesty affects things big and small for me.
- Little things like “saying i’m on my way” when I haven’t even gotten close to leaving my house and I have a 15 minute trip to get to the person I just said that to… I commit to being honest on the little things such as my location and status when I committed to being somewhere.
- Bigger things like saying “that doesn’t look good on you” because I’ve found that I’ve earned the respect of others for being truthful about my opinion and it’s not to hurt others but let them know I’ll always be real with them.
- Big things like disagreeing with a client that pays me a lot of money. I’m not a yes man and I won’t say something just because it’s what you want to hear. If I disagree with you I’ll let you know and we can discuss it further. I want my clients and customers to know that I will never BS them, add fluff, or sugarcoat things that don’t deserve sugar. I commit to calling it like I see it with nothing but respect.
I’ve found when I follow through on my commitments in an honest way I’m able to create a deeper connection with anyone. As long as I’m present.
So many times I catch myself not looking into the eyes of the person speaking to me.
I notice I’m holding my mobile phone peaking at email or facebook while out to dinner with Sarah. Man, this is horrible! Don’t do this dudes!
When I am fully aware of this It’s much easier for me to control and just recently Sarah notice and made a comment while out for sushi that I’ve done a great job not having my phone at the table or on me to feel it vibrate. I’ve been leaving it on another seat or in my coat pocket. I’ll tell you it works well!
To me being present means:
- Engaging with the person speaking with you by looking in their eyes
- Actively listening in order to participate and add value to the conversation
- Adding plenty of physical touch when I’m with Sarah
- Not always looking at my phone when I’m out with people or in the middle of a conversation (man that is so rude, I’m sorry if I’ve done this to you)
- Giving all of myself to the moment I’m in
- Being present with my work and not trying to multi-task at everything. One thing at a time with my full attention. My results with this is more quality work, writing, time and conversation.
Moving forward the decisions I make and actions I take will be guided in a committed, honest and present way.
That’s what you can expect from me.
What can I expect from you?
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