Welcome to the last 3 months of my life. Yeah, you read that right. In the last 3 months:
- I’ve proposed to my beautiful girlfriend, Sarah (now fiance, it’s still weird to say)
- I’ve sold my house and moved into a smaller one bedroom apartment
- I quit my job leading the mobile strategy for Cabela’s, a top retailer in the hunting, fishing campaign space to take my own business full time.
Although it sounds a bit stressful, the last 3 months have been the most fun, exciting, anticipated, loving, giving, rewarding and stress-free months in…well, as long as I can remember.
In spending the last year and a half building my own business through my blog and podcast, Mobile Mixed, I have found tons of clarity in my life that has led me to 3 of the biggest decisions I’ve ever made in my life.
Now before I dive into these 3 events I want to make it clear that I’ve followed through on these decisions making them a reality.
Decisions mean nothing without follow through. Tweet this.
“Follow-through” is an important phrase for me moving forward because I realized I wasn’t doing anything remotely close to following through on things that I’ve claimed I’ve wanted.
I was a lot of talk.
Now, Not all talk because I’ve hustled a lot and achieved a great deal in the last year and a half, but I’ve realized that I’m really good at getting 99% of the way there and then finding a reason to not give that last 1%.
It’s the last 1% that opens the door to welcome huge brekthroughs.
For me, that 1% has brought me to share with you the 3 most important, life-changing and clearest things I’ve ever done.
1. I proposed and she said yes
Sarah and I have been dating since 2010. We met in Denver through a mutual friend and shortly after that she moved to Omaha, Nebraska to begin medical school. Through years of building a strong relationship, even through the long distance she has become my best friend, my lover and I trust her with my heart.
I’ve learned that being vulnerable and opening up to someone (the way I’ve been able to with Sarah) allowed me to find clarity in who I am as a person, what I really want to accomplish in life and the reasons they are important to me.
It knew early on in our relationship that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her and build a family with her yet I only proposed this September (2013). Along the way I made countless comments eluding to the fact that I want to get married yet I never asked the question…
This felt normal to me until I realized that the more I made comments about us getting married she began to show doubt.
My “all talk, no walk” style had created a perception that I would never follow through. She couldn’t trust and honor my word. You know what…she was right.
For years I had been telling her i was going to quit my job and take my business full time. Even before Mobile Mixed, there was another company in which I said that yet, I was still working a 9-5.
I had been telling her that we’re going to get married and that I wanted to marry her yet we were still not engaged.
I couldn’t even honor my own word so how was I supposed to expect her to?
I’ve realized that I’ve failed to follow through on my own word in many ways in life and somewhere along the line it became ok to me. All I know is that that is not acceptable to me anymore.
If you can’t honor your own word, nobody will. TWEET THIS
I invite you to become aware of all of the ways you may not follow-through on your word and what that creates in your own life.
- Telling someone “you’re on your way” when you haven’t left your house yet.
- Promising you’ll call at x time and then not.
- Saying you’ll be there for someone and then not showing up.
- Saying you want to marry someone and then not proposing.
- Saying you want to get up earlier and then hitting snooze over and over.
- Saying you’ll be there at 7pm and then showing up at 7:30pm with a list of excuses.
No matter if it’s big or small, it’s still your word. Honor it. Committ to it.
Lesson: If you truly honor your word and practice it every day, you become fully capable of achieving your dreams.
Personal Tip: Learning to say no is the most powerful tool in honoring your word.
I had a habit of over-committing to things which made it very difficult, almost impossible to follow through on any of them resulting in letting others down and most importantly letting myself down.
2. I sold my house
I’ll be honest with you. I have been afriad of both failure and success in so many ways I can’t even count them.
I was afraid I wouldn’t be able to pay my mortgage or my bills if I went out on my own in business.
So I stayed at my 9-5 job even though I was miserable and unfulfilled.
I was afriad that if I made a lot of money I’d spend it like an asshole because I’ve told myself “I’m bad at managing money”.
So I found comfort in a job with a salary that dictated when and how mugh I got paid.
I was afraid of being my own boss, uncertainty and having no experience in working for myself full-time.
So I accepted one 9-5 job for another because it was for a bigger brand, paid a lot of money and looked good.
Now, I know you have your own fears. Let’s face it, we all do.
Once I realized it was only these fears holding me back, I found ways to eliminate them leaving myself no excuses but to step through the open door towards my dream.
The real estate market is great in Denver and it was a sellers market nonetheless. My neighbor sold his house within 48 hours. I knew I could do the same.
I determined that my dream of starting my own company and working for myself was more important than owning a townhome.
So I declared that I’d sell my house and the profits would be used as my safety net as I transition to working for myself and building my own business.
My business was making about 45% of what my paycheck provided so I wouldn’t be dipping into the safety funds completely.
The funds left me with over a year’s worth of runway (if spent wisely).
Since I was afraid of not spending it wisely, I got an accountant to help me manage this money.
Lastly, selling my house and working for myself means I can work now work from anywhere. I have until June 2014 to continue to grow my business before I potentially have to move to a new city for Sarah’s residency.
Selling my house gave me:
- Freedom to build my business from anywhere.
- The ability to create my own schedule and eliminate over 90 minutes of commuting a day.
- The money to support me if things don’t grow as fast as I’d like (but they will!) eliminating any fear of not being abel to pay bills over the next year.
- Eliminated stress in my life and Sarah’s life knwoing that she can choose a residency program that is best suited for her (even though we’re making the decision together 🙂 ) .
When I realized selling the house brought me one huge step closer to building the business and life I want the decision was easy.
If you let your vision guide you, it’s not sacrifice. It’s alignment. Tweet this.
Make a list of your perfect day. What sort of life do you want to live? What buisness do you want to create? What type of relationships do you want to have?
Lesson: Identify your vision. Allow the vision to guide you and be your reference when you’re faced with difficult decisions.
Personal Tip: Writing down your vision, keeping a daily journal and having friends/family to hold you accountbale are necessary. No leader achieves greatness without help.
3. I Quit my high paying, high level position at Cabela’s
This was actually the easiest choice because it came last.
I had already proposed to the woman of my dreams, sold my house opening the door of opportunity to build the life and business I wanted and leaving my high paying job for a big brand…that was just stepping through the door.
Usually stepping through the door is one of the hardest and scariest parts. At least it has been for me.
After proposing and selling my house, I had eliminated so many other fears, doubts and concerns that the step became easy.
Having built Mobile Mixed as much as I already have I realized I didn’t need a big brand job to validate that I knew my shit.
I had been proving it the last year and a half.
Of course I added a few feathers to my cap by:
- Launching a new mobile website that is kicking ass
- Developing an SMS program that is rolling out nationally in a few months
- Defined the customer application strategy
- Educating and evangelizing the mobile vision throughout a $3billion annual company.
But…the cap was already on and there were plenty of feathers in it.
My passion for mobile, more desire to help others and the results I’ve generated to date are my proof and it’s only going grow as I continue to build my business.
My vision guided me to proposing to Sarah and selling my house leaving the door wide open.
The only person that could step through it was me and that step was the 1% that led to a new world of opportunities.
Ask yourself, would giving that last 1% in your own life open new doors for you?
I’m all in.
You can choose the same.
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